We all have limiting beliefs. We know some; most we do not. They are programs running in the background: ‘I do not deserve it’, ‘I must’, ‘life is hard’, ‘money is hard to earn’, ‘I stay silent to survive’. You were not born with them. You received them in childhood, from your mother, father, and the environment you grew up in — and many are not even yours; they belong to your lineage, and you carry them in your blood.
In livestreams, I worked in turn on the ‘I do not deserve it’, ‘I must’, and ‘Life is hard’ programs, with representations involving people who joined. Then one night I woke with guidance: much of the trauma resides in the blood. That is how the intensive livestream on cleansing the blood of programs came about. Below I explain what these limiting convictions are, how they manifest, and how to cleanse them using the phrases I used.
What limiting beliefs are
A limiting belief is a set of convictions and emotions internalized at a very young age. Emotions lay at their foundation: the child experienced them, drew a conclusion, and placed it in the subconscious. As an adult, you then operate from it unknowingly, because we do most things from the unconscious. That is why we work on ourselves: to bring these weeds into consciousness.
And what you think is what happens. If your foundation is ‘life is hard’, your life will be hard — the Universe gives you what you ask for vibrationally. I wrote about this mechanism in the article on the law of attraction and how to manifest your reality.
The ‘I do not deserve it’ program: probably the most toxic
We all have the ‘I do not deserve it’ program to a greater or lesser degree. Behind it lies another, even deeper one: ‘I am not worthy of love.’
Few people consciously say ‘I do not deserve it’, because that would mean seeing how much time they lost in these weeds. So they say ‘I cannot’ or complain — versions the psyche finds more acceptable. I only saw ‘I do not deserve it’ in myself after about a year and a half of daily self-work. I realized I was chasing love but actually did not want it because I did not believe I deserved it.
How a child comes to believe they do not deserve it
A child is not born believing they do not deserve things. When adults around them cannot care for them, they do not have the mental capacity to understand this — it would be worse than death for them. So they prefer to agree with the adults and take the blame upon themselves: if I do not receive love and attention, it means I do not deserve them. Classic child logic.
And it does not happen once. It is like Chinese water torture, day after day: conditional love (‘I love you if you behave’), critical, perfectionistic, or emotionally cold parents, ‘come on, never mind, stop crying’, ridicule and body shaming, sibling comparisons, reversed roles (as with narcissistic mothers, where the child becomes a mother to their mother), and neglect.
How ‘I do not deserve it’ manifests in adulthood
- The inner critic. The critical voice in your head is the voice of the adult from that time; you keep poisoning yourself every day.
- You cannot receive compliments, help, or support. Or you are hyper-independent — that too is a form of trauma.
- Extreme perfectionism and many self-sabotage programs. When you sabotage yourself most severely, the ‘I do not deserve it’ program is there. I wrote about this separately in the article on self-sabotage and how to release yourself from it.
- In relationships: you attract emotionally unavailable partners or accept abusive or unbalanced relationships.
- At work: impostor syndrome, refusing good opportunities (‘I am not good enough’), not asking or negotiating — and resentment remains that you were not appreciated. But others appreciate you only as much as you appreciate yourself.
One participant paid for a five-star cruise, and despite all the delicacies before her, she still chose the simplest cake. In representations, ‘I do not deserve it’ emerged differently for each person, but all led to the inner child.
The ‘I deserve it’ exercise
Put your hand on your chest and say: ‘I deserve it.’ Then ask yourself: whatever your current situation, what would it look like if you truly believed you deserved it? What would choosing yourself mean?
The correct order, as I decoded it, is: God, you, your children, and then everyone else. If you make your parents or a partner your God, you are not in the right order. And loving yourself first is not selfishness. Others can love you only as much as you love yourself.
An exercise that emerged for those who do not see themselves: stand before a mirror and look at yourself for half an hour. And transform the program: ‘I do not see myself’ becomes ‘I see myself and love myself’.
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The ‘I must’ program: the external force that empties you
‘I must’ is like an external force pulling energy from you: I must go to work, I must because mother said so, I must because the boss said so. You are tired and feel ill — but you must. It is a subtle form of betraying yourself. A healthy ‘I must’ for organizing yourself is fine; the problem is when it becomes excessive — then it controls and limits you.
In representations, ‘I must’ emerged in many ways:
- ‘I must do things for others.’ The heart cannot bear so much ‘I must’ for others anymore.
- ‘I must speak in a certain way’, not how I want — loyalty to the mother who silenced you.
- ‘I must run’, always, as though someone comes from behind to beat you. The beaten inner child still feels beaten; go to the child and say the beating is over.
- ‘I must hide’ or ‘I must fight’ for everything — with ‘Life is hard’ behind it.
- ‘I must behave’: you stayed silent for a lifetime, and now you have lost your taste for life. It is an invisible prison.
What do you do? Next time ‘I must’ enters your head, dare to do it differently once. You will access parts of yourself you have never accessed. Leaving your comfort zone hurts a little — that is how the boundary expands, through small steps.
‘I am’ versus ‘I do’
A first major level in spirituality is the moment you realize in your heart, not only mentally: ‘I am.’ Then you no longer have to do anything — being is more than enough. From ‘I am’, you emanate and create; from ‘I must’, you empty yourself.
Your basic identity must be ‘I am’, not ‘I do’. We do not discard ‘I do’ — we weave it with ‘I am’, as the masculine that acts and feminine that attracts intertwine. Whoever lives only in work sabotages their ability to manifest through attraction. Meditate on ‘I am’.
The ‘Life is hard’ program
It is a very large program underlying many others. For some, life truly was hard, and their parents thought the same way. But it is a program that actually makes you reject life.
On the day of the livestream, I worked on it in myself first, and childhood emerged: my mother constantly complained about how hard things were and said very harsh things a child should not hear. The child absorbs those energies. When I removed them, I began burping and my belly swelled. There was an adult not taking responsibility for life and pouring her overflow onto a child.
In representations, ‘life is hard’ concerned relationships for some, money for others, and the body for others — childhood beatings still carried in the body. The solutions that emerged:
- Dare. Do the things you do not do. You hold yourself back from new experiences.
- Take action. There is no manifestation without action. If you lose all your energy in plans, that is perfectionism and self-sabotage. It is like a circle dance: until you join, you do not learn the steps.
- Speak. Whoever learned to suffer in silence carries unspoken things in the heart and throat.
- Stop saving others and be present in your own life. Your life cannot be easy if you run away from it.
- Ask for guidance and listen to it. Before bed, ask to dream what you need to do — and then do it.
The path is to reach the subconscious belief that life is easy. At every challenge, ask: what does the easy-life solution look like? With several programs, I saw that after three or four months of work, easy things begin manifesting.
If ‘life is hard’ has taken you as far as dark thoughts, despair, or depression, please do not stay alone with them: speak to a doctor, psychologist, or psychotherapist. Energetic work can support you, but does not replace specialist help.
Limiting beliefs reside in the blood and lineage
We carry many programs in the blood that are not ours. Your blood formed in your mother’s womb and carries her traumas and those of the lineage. That is why, however much you work on yourself, sometimes you cleanse and cleanse and there is still more.
When I made the list for the livestream, whole packages emerged: famine, violence (‘we manage through beatings’), ‘love costs too much’, ‘money is hard to earn’, ‘a lot of money is dangerous’, ‘children are a burden’, fear of risk, ‘life is a competition’. If you are interested in the ancestral aspect in greater depth, I wrote about ancestral karma and how to release it.
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Cleansing the blood of programs: the steps
I applied musk from the protection mix — the oil I use most — and put on root-chakra music to ground us. Keep a blanket beside you.
- Center yourself and close your eyes. Visualize belonging to a family tree. Your soul agreed that a certain karma would stop through you.
- Connect with your blood. Become aware that it formed in your mother’s womb and contains her traumas and those of the lineage.
- Say: ‘I cleanse my blood and lineage of all limiting programs.’
- Take the programs one at a time, using the same formula: ‘I cleanse from my blood and lineage the program…’ — ‘I am not good enough’, ‘life is hard’, ‘I must work’, ‘I do not deserve success’, ‘we are poor’, ‘I stay silent to survive’, ‘I sacrifice myself for others’, ‘what will people say?’. Take those that resonate with you.
- Let them flow into the ground. Imagine the program flowing out of you, out of the blood, through the soles of your feet, into the ground. You can also imagine standing on salt.
- Give back what is not yours. If you know whose program it is, return it directly: ‘Dear mother, it belongs to you; I give it back.’
- Pass light through the blood. Push light down from your head through every blood cell, and see what descends.
- Ask the water to wash you. Imagine a waterfall of warm water washing away everything you took from the lineage and through the blood.
- Ask to be shown what remains. ‘I ask to be shown all the unconscious problems I still have.’ We are removing one layer now; there are others.
- Stay with yourself for two or three minutes, with your consciousness in your body. Let it flow. You have triggered the process.
What reactions may appear
In the livestream, people yawned, burped, cried, and felt cold, heat, fatigue, dizziness, or nausea. The programs you reacted to most strongly are the ones to work on in yourself. If you cry, let yourself cry. If a reaction is strong or does not pass, stop, rest, and seek a doctor’s advice. And if the programs include beatings or other abuse, work on them gently and, where needed, with a psychologist or psychotherapist.
The salt ritual
After representations that stirred things up, I recommended the salt ritual: settle on salt, say your release phrases, and let the energies go into the salt. It is not the same as a salt bath — in the ritual, energies leave much more easily. Discard the salt every time. You can continue for up to seven days; some have done ninety. Do it for as long as you feel. For lack programs, I also leave you release practices for famine and lack.
After cleansing: needs, the inner child, and the foundation
Cleansing alone is not enough. What emerged in all representations:
- Meet your needs. Behind many programs — envy, comparison, ‘I do not deserve it’ — is an inner child whose needs were not met. Having needs is normal; you are human.
- Work on the foundation: mother, father, and you. Everything you have as an adult goes back to this initial triangle. For the inner-child aspect, I wrote exercises and release practices for healing the inner child.
- Do not escape into spirituality. It is a trap: you generate a great deal of spiritual energy and avoid working with mother, father, and the inner child. If you rise high without solid foundations below, at some point you collapse.
- Be gentle with yourself. With major traumas, do not shake the tree while the apples are green. What is ripe comes out on its own, in its own time.
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The livestream below is the one in which we cleansed the blood and lineage of programs. You can repeat it anytime; it is one I will revisit myself.
The complete livestreams, with representations: the ‘I do not deserve it’ program, the ‘I must’ program and its manifestations and dissolving the ‘Life is hard’ program.
Frequently asked questions about limiting beliefs
What are limiting beliefs?
They are programs — convictions and emotions — internalized in childhood or inherited from the lineage, from which you operate unconsciously as an adult: ‘I do not deserve it’, ‘I must’, ‘life is hard’, ‘money is hard to earn’.
What is the difference between limiting beliefs and limiting convictions?
In practice, we are talking about the same thing: a basic, often unconscious thought that limits your life. I call them programs because they run in the background like computer programs until you bring them into consciousness and cleanse them.
Where does the ‘I do not deserve it’ program come from?
Childhood. When adults cannot give love and attention, the child takes the blame: ‘if I do not receive it, it means I do not deserve it’. Conditional love, criticism, comparisons, and neglect strengthen it, drop by drop.
How do I get rid of limiting beliefs?
First, become aware of them. Then cleanse them — for example, with the phrase ‘I cleanse from my blood and lineage the program…’ and the salt ritual — meet your inner child’s needs, work on your relationship with mother and father, and take action differently from what the program tells you. It is a layered process, not a magic wand.
What does cleansing the blood of programs mean?
It is energetic cleansing in which you connect with your blood — formed in your mother’s womb, carrying ancestral traumas — and let limiting programs flow from it, through the soles of your feet, into the ground.
You are not your programs. They are only programs — and you can live without them. Sending you a kiss, and I look forward to seeing you at the next livestream.
