"Cristina, can you read for me the greatest wound left by my mother?" That is what the chat looked like in the livestream about the mother. And the answer came differently every time: self-distrust, the need for validation, "I am worth nothing", the hunger for love. They all had the same source: the first relationship in your life. The psychological unbindings on the mother came to me through guidance; I tested them on myself first and then put them into a book: Complete Unbindings with the Mother – The Relationship with the Mother, in PDF format.
Maybe you recognize yourself: you always wait for someone to encourage you, you have an inner critic who will not be quiet, you live on alert and want to control everything. Or you were the child who had to be strong for everyone. There is nothing wrong with you. It is a wound, and wounds can be worked on.
And I want it clear from the start: the book is not against mothers. Our mothers in turn had wounded mothers. The unbinding is not revenge, but a giving back: you give the mother what is hers and stay with what is yours.
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What you find in the mother unbinding book
The book is dedicated to the relationship with the mother figure: emotional safety, attachment, trust and the way you build relationships. You work through unbindings and personal reflection.
What you find in it:
- over 100 pages of unbindings;
- work on rejection, control and lack of affection;
- exploring the wounds and tensions tied to the relationship with the mother;
- formulas for spiritual work and introspection;
- the maternal patterns that can repeat in adult life.
The method is simple: you center yourself, you say the phrase and you push the energy out. At the phrases where you have reactions, you return and work several times. I always start with safety, with the state of alert and the need for control, because that is where the foundation lies.
You receive it as a digital PDF, on WhatsApp, in Romanian or in 12 other languages (English, French, German, Italian, Spanish, Russian, Japanese, Arabic, Portuguese, Turkish, Hindi and Chinese).
Who the book is for
It is for you if:
- you constantly need validation and wait for encouragement from outside;
- you have a harsh inner critic and a perfectionism that tires you;
- you live in a state of alert, always anticipating what wrong can happen;
- you were the child grown up too early, the family's savior;
- you feel a hunger for love no partner fills;
- you still hear inside you today "shut up", "you are stupid" or "life is hard".
From what I have seen in people, the great majority of adult problems have roots in the relationship with the mother, even if the father was the toxic one. I wrote at length about signs and the ritual in the complete article about the mother wound and the unbindings with the mother.
If you have lived through abuse or heavy traumas, also work with a psychologist or psychotherapist. The unbindings do not replace therapy, and if you are in danger, call 112.
How you work with it
- Sit on dry salt. About a kilogram of coarse salt on the floor, barefoot on it. Not in water with salt: there it dilutes.
- Close your eyes and come into the body. If you feel nothing, you may be too much in the mind. Come gently into the body.
- Speak slowly and push the energy out. "Dear mother, I give you back everything that is yours and I let everything that is not me drain out of my body." You are not at a poetry recital.
- Take back what is yours. "Dear mother, I take back everything that is mine." Self-trust, self-love, childhood.
- Let the emotions out. Burping, yawning, itchings, crying, even anger. Anger is a stage of healing.
- Give thanks at the end. Those energies helped you survive.
You can do the unbindings even if your mother is no longer among us. You are doing her no harm by giving her what is hers.
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The livestreams that prepare you
Unbindings with the mother, following my book – part 1
I worked live from the book. It is the best way to see what the phrases look like and how a chapter is gone through.
The greatest wound left by the mother
The livestream with readings, where we searched together for the greatest wound from the mother: distrust, validation, "I am worth nothing".
Salt energetic cleansings for the mother's energies
The salt ritual, step by step: you give back the criticism, the love with conditions, the invisible boundaries, then you call your pieces of soul back.
Which version you choose
- Complete Unbindings with the Mother (PDF) – €25. The workbook.
- Complete Unbindings with the Mother (PDF) + MUSC essential oil – €50. The book plus the musk oil I myself work with on salt.
- Complete Unbindings on Mother and Father (2 PDFs) – €40. The mother book plus the father book. When you finish with the mother, the father follows; about him I wrote in the article about the relationship with the father.
Frequently asked questions
My mother was good to me. Is it worth working?
It is. Not all programs were given to you by the mother with intent. Many you took on yourself, out of love. The unbinding does not judge; it only puts each thing in its place.
What do I do if anger at my mother comes up?
It is good. Anger is a stage of healing. If you have felt no anger at all, maybe you fled into forgiveness too quickly.
Do I have to work through the whole book?
No. You work with the sections that match your experience and return to them whenever you feel the need.
Where do I ask if I have a problem with my order?
On the contact page.
Stop the inheritance with you
As much as they could carry, our mothers carried. What they could not, they passed on, from generation to generation. These unbindings stop the inheritance with you, so it no longer passes to your children. And you finally become your own best fan.
Sit on the salt, open the book and begin gently. A big hug, and I will see you live.
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The relationship with the mother: boundaries, guilt and autonomy
You can work with the relationship with the mother by noticing what belongs to you now: your choices, your boundaries and the way you respond. You do not have to deny your pain, force closeness or wait for your mother to change in order to take a step for yourself.
A boundary is not a punishment
If every refusal is followed by reproaches, it can become hard to separate love from permanent availability. A clear boundary says what you can offer and what you choose to do when a conversation becomes painful. The book treats themes such as fear, self-criticism, excessive responsibility-taking and self-respect. Use them to name your experience, not to build a verdict about your mother or the whole family.
An exercise you can adapt
Choose a repetitive situation. Formulate a short sentence: I can talk about this when we address each other with respect. Also decide what you will do if the boundary is not respected, for example end the conversation and return another time. Repeat the formulation without adding endless justifications.
Choose the right support for your theme
The Complete Unbindings with the Mother PDF puts in one place formulations on emotional, relational and autonomy themes. It lets you choose the chapter suited to the situation you are working with.
For a video path, see the current Truth and Healing course offering. See the available courses.
See Complete Unbindings with the Mother – The Relationship with the Mother (PDF) and buy from the site. Read the product content and conditions before choosing.
Frequently asked question
Do I have to make peace with my mother in order to work with myself? No. You can keep a distance that protects your safety and you can seek support for your own experience.
Continue at your own pace
Choose a single theme you can look at today. A written support lets you return to it without searching for a new starting point each time. Explore the unbindings library and the meditation guide for other resources. Spiritual practices are forms of personal reflection; they do not replace the medical, psychological or legal help you need.
